Break anxious cycles & build secure relationships

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If this sounds familiar, you may struggle with an

Can you relate?

A constant need for reassurance and approval

FEELING LIKE YOU'RE CLINGY/NEEDY

Worrying that you're "too much"

Jealousy & frustration at any sign of unavailability

Hyper-sensitivity to signs of rejection, criticism, or feelings of unwantedness

STRONG PEOPLE-PLEASING HABITS

LACKING BOUNDARIES 

Over-analyzing and excessive worrying

Always putting their needs before your own

You can't argue "well" because you tend to blow-up

Anxious Attachment Style

If you're here, you're probably feeling tired, frustrated, and
SO ready for change.

You want to experience healthy, thriving love. 

You want to STOP repeating damaging habits.

And you want to stop feeling like you're going around in circles. 

"Just how do I change this?"

I hear you screaming from the inside, and I get it. For years, I had both anxious and avoidant tendencies in my relationships. These were some of my most common habits and their effects:

Silently observing every little thing my partner did
for signs of them losing interest.

what i did

how i felt

Constant anxiety and feeling like I needed to act a certain way to keep their interest.

Hyper-sensitivity to ANY slight change in behavior.

Over-analyzing followed by shutting down or
over-reacting.

Shutting down and distancing myself when
I was feeling hurt.

Secretly hoping/expecting them to comfort me.

Wanting reassurance and support yet not
knowing how to ask for it.

Getting silently angry when they didn’t comfort me followed by shame about 'needing' them.

behavior

effect

behavior

effect

behavior

effect

"Just how do I change this?"

I hear you screaming from the inside, and I get it. For years, I had both anxious and avoidant tendencies in my relationships. These were some of my most common habits and their effects:

Hyper-sensitivity to ANY slight change in behavior

Over-analyzing and worrying about them

Shutting down and distancing myself when I was feeling hurt

Secretly hoping/expecting them to comfort me 

Wanting constant reassurance yet not knowing how to ask for it

Getting silently angry when they didn’t comfort me when and how I wanted them to

Silently observing every little thing my partner did for signs of them losing interest

behavior

effect

Constant anxiety and feeling like I needed to hide parts of myself to keep their interest

this all made me feel...

"Why am I like this?"
"There is something wrong with me!"
"Who's going to love me like this?" 
*Throws pity party*

It took 15 years of deep personal work; therapy, a Psychology degree, a Life Coaching certification, countless books, and (most importantly) doing the real work within my long-term relationships, to truly heal.

Today, I’m engaged to my secure, loving fiancé, in a relationship I once didn’t believe was possible.

I know what it takes to heal the messy parts of our past and present so we can create a future rooted in real, lasting love.

My mission is to help others do the same; to heal and experience the secure love they truly deserve.

so how can you start your healing journey?

You + Me:
3-Month Transformation Program

includes:

What You Get:

✔️ 9 x 1-hour video sessions (3 per month, fully tailored to you)
✔️ Weekly personalized homework to turn insight into lasting change
✔️FREE access to:
✔️ Anxious to Secure Course ($249 value)
✔️ Breaking the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle Workbook ($29 value)

Everything you need to break old patterns, build security from within, and create the healthy love you deserve.

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overthinking

codependence

feelings of unworthiness

constant anxiety

people pleasing

emotional reactions

purposeful reflection

interdependence

self-empowered

regulated emotions

healthy boundaries

constructive communication

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Client Love

 "Sarah was a precious resource to me during one of the most challenging times in my life.  Acknowledging my actual experiences and emotions and using the resources and exercises that Sarah provided me allowed me to make huge strides in my healing,
self-esteem, and self-worth in just a few months.”

Erin.W. Real Estate Agent.

“I love how genuine Sarah is. In my past experience with other professionals, I often felt like they were waiting for that alarm to go off so we could be done. But I’ve never felt anything remotely close to this with Sarah - she truly cares and wants to see me make progress.”

Richard.N., ER Nurse, NY

"Sarah is FANTASTIC! Sarah is a gifted communicator, intuitive to emotions, and structures our sessions to flow in a manner that is tailored to me. After each session, I feel more empowered to take on life and relationships." 

Angel.T., Nurse, LA

Your journey to secure love doesn't have to feel so lonely
or confusing.

Together, we can heal the parts of you lost in your past, so you can finally find the healthy
 love you deserve. 

Frequently Asked Questions

What's the difference between Coaching & Therapy?

What's the difference between Coaching & Therapy?

Therapy primarily focuses on healing your past. Coaching does this as well but puts a particular emphasis on your present and future. Our sessions are solution-oriented and meant to give you practical tools for a lifetime of secure love. 

What are your qualifications?

WHAT ARE YOUR QUALIFICATIONS?

Psychology:
B.A. in Psychology & Management - University of Auckland
B.A. in Cognitive Psychology (1-year Exchange Student Program) - University of California, San Diego 

Coaching:
iPEC Coaching (ICF-Accredited Coach Training Program)
Certifications:
Certified Professional Coach (CPC)
Energy Leadership™ Index Master Practitioner (ELI-MP)
COR.E Dynamics™

How can Coaching help me?

How can Coaching help me?

Coaching creates valuable space for healing and self-development. Most of the time, the tools we need to thrive are right in front of us, but we can't see them for ourselves. The right coach will help you:

Gain clarity to what's holding you back
Heal your past and present to create a beautiful future
Create a practical path to achieving your goals
Stay on track throughout your journey
Grow personally and professionally
Get out of your comfort zone while having a trusted guide

WHO do you typically work with?

WHO IS THIS FOR?

I work with individuals, mostly with Anxious or Disorganized attachment, though I’ve supported many Avoidant clients too.

Clients are typically 20–55, single or partnered, and often high-achievers who feel stuck or overwhelmed in their love lives.

How long before I see results?

How long do I need to work with you before I see results?

Many clients start seeing shifts within just a few sessions, whether it’s feeling calmer, clearer, or more confident in how they handle dating or relationship challenges.

That said, lasting transformation takes time.
3 Months
Great if you're working through a specific situation, like dating someone new or needing clarity in a current relationship. You'll get focused support and practical tools you can apply right away.

6–12 Months
Ideal for deeper work; healing past wounds, changing long-standing patterns, and building the foundation for secure, lasting love.

Do you offer Couple Coaching?

Do you offer Couple Coaching?

No. I only work with individuals. 

Can I meet you before I decide if I want to work with you?

Can I meet you before I decide if I want to work with you?

I don’t offer free consults, but you can start with a one-off 1-hour session.

It’s a chance to bring a real issue you’re facing, get support, and see what it’s like to work together. If it feels aligned for both of us, you’ll be invited into the 3-month coaching program.

Is Coaching Confidential?

Is Coaching Confidential?

Yes. All coaching and coaching inquiries are strictly confidential.

What if I don't like Coaching with you?

What if I don't like Coaching with you?

If you (or we) feel that we aren't the right fit for each other or you are no longer available, we can stop working together right away.

I want to do this, but I'm nervous!

I want to do this, but I'm nervous!

This is totally understandable and very normal! It's hard to let others see your most vulnerable side -- it's even harder to find a stranger you can trust and feel comfortable with. Please read my testimonials to get a feel of the kind of environment I create for my clients. 

Ready to work with me?

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