If this sounds familiar, you may struggle with an
Can you relate?
A constant need for reassurance and approval
FEELING LIKE YOU'RE CLINGY/NEEDY
Worrying that you're "too much"
Jealousy & frustration at any sign of unavailability
Hyper-sensitivity to signs of rejection, criticism, or feelings of unwantedness
STRONG PEOPLE-PLEASING HABITS
LACKING BOUNDARIES
Over-analyzing and excessive worrying
Always putting their needs before your own
You can't argue "well" because you tend to blow-up
Anxious Attachment Style
If you're here, you're probably feeling tired, frustrated, and
SO ready for change.
You want to experience healthy, thriving love.
You want to STOP repeating damaging habits.
And you want to stop feeling like you're going around in circles.
"Just how do I change this?"
I hear you screaming from the inside, and I get it. For years, I had both anxious and avoidant tendencies in my relationships. These were some of my most common habits and their effects:
Silently observing every little thing my partner did
for signs of them losing interest.
what i did
how i felt
Constant anxiety and feeling like I needed to act a certain way to keep their interest.
Hyper-sensitivity to ANY slight change in behavior.
Over-analyzing followed by shutting down or
over-reacting.
Shutting down and distancing myself when
I was feeling hurt.
Secretly hoping/expecting them to comfort me.
Wanting reassurance and support yet not
knowing how to ask for it.
Getting silently angry when they didn’t comfort me followed by shame about 'needing' them.
behavior
effect
behavior
effect
behavior
effect
"Just how do I change this?"
I hear you screaming from the inside, and I get it. For years, I had both anxious and avoidant tendencies in my relationships. These were some of my most common habits and their effects:
Hyper-sensitivity to ANY slight change in behavior
Over-analyzing and worrying about them
Shutting down and distancing myself when I was feeling hurt
Secretly hoping/expecting them to comfort me
Wanting constant reassurance yet not knowing how to ask for it
Getting silently angry when they didn’t comfort me when and how I wanted them to
Silently observing every little thing my partner did for signs of them losing interest
behavior
effect
Constant anxiety and feeling like I needed to hide parts of myself to keep their interest
this all made me feel...
"Why am I like this?"
"There is something wrong with me!"
"Who's going to love me like this?"
*Throws pity party*
It took 15 years of deep personal work; therapy, a Psychology degree, a Life Coaching certification, countless books, and (most importantly) doing the real work within my long-term relationships, to truly heal.
Today, I’m engaged to my secure, loving fiancé, in a relationship I once didn’t believe was possible.
I know what it takes to heal the messy parts of our past and present so we can create a future rooted in real, lasting love.
My mission is to help others do the same; to heal and experience the secure love they truly deserve.
so how can you start your healing journey?
You + Me:
3-Month Transformation Program
includes:
What You Get:
✔️ 9 x 1-hour video sessions (3 per month, fully tailored to you)
✔️ Weekly personalized homework to turn insight into lasting change
✔️FREE access to:
✔️ Anxious to Secure Course ($249 value)
✔️ Breaking the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle Workbook ($29 value)
Everything you need to break old patterns, build security from within, and create the healthy love you deserve.
apply now
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overthinking
codependence
feelings of unworthiness
constant anxiety
people pleasing
emotional reactions
purposeful reflection
interdependence
self-empowered
regulated emotions
healthy boundaries
constructive communication
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"Sarah was a precious resource to me during one of the most challenging times in my life. Acknowledging my actual experiences and emotions and using the resources and exercises that Sarah provided me allowed me to make huge strides in my healing,
self-esteem, and self-worth in just a few months.”
Erin.W. Real Estate Agent.
“I love how genuine Sarah is. In my past experience with other professionals, I often felt like they were waiting for that alarm to go off so we could be done. But I’ve never felt anything remotely close to this with Sarah - she truly cares and wants to see me make progress.”
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"Sarah is FANTASTIC! Sarah is a gifted communicator, intuitive to emotions, and structures our sessions to flow in a manner that is tailored to me. After each session, I feel more empowered to take on life and relationships."
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Your journey to secure love doesn't have to feel so lonely
or confusing.
Together, we can heal the parts of you lost in your past, so you can finally find the healthy
love you deserve.
Frequently Asked Questions
Therapy primarily focuses on healing your past. Coaching does this as well but puts a particular emphasis on your present and future. Our sessions are solution-oriented and meant to give you practical tools for a lifetime of secure love.
Psychology:
B.A. in Psychology & Management - University of Auckland
B.A. in Cognitive Psychology (1-year Exchange Student Program) - University of California, San Diego
Coaching:
iPEC Coaching (ICF-Accredited Coach Training Program)
Certifications:
Certified Professional Coach (CPC)
Energy Leadership™ Index Master Practitioner (ELI-MP)
COR.E Dynamics™
Coaching creates valuable space for healing and self-development. Most of the time, the tools we need to thrive are right in front of us, but we can't see them for ourselves. The right coach will help you:
Gain clarity to what's holding you back
Heal your past and present to create a beautiful future
Create a practical path to achieving your goals
Stay on track throughout your journey
Grow personally and professionally
Get out of your comfort zone while having a trusted guide
I work with individuals, mostly with Anxious or Disorganized attachment, though I’ve supported many Avoidant clients too.
Clients are typically 20–55, single or partnered, and often high-achievers who feel stuck or overwhelmed in their love lives.
Many clients start seeing shifts within just a few sessions, whether it’s feeling calmer, clearer, or more confident in how they handle dating or relationship challenges.
That said, lasting transformation takes time.
3 Months
Great if you're working through a specific situation, like dating someone new or needing clarity in a current relationship. You'll get focused support and practical tools you can apply right away.
6–12 Months
Ideal for deeper work; healing past wounds, changing long-standing patterns, and building the foundation for secure, lasting love.
No. I only work with individuals.
I don’t offer free consults, but you can start with a one-off 1-hour session.
It’s a chance to bring a real issue you’re facing, get support, and see what it’s like to work together. If it feels aligned for both of us, you’ll be invited into the 3-month coaching program.
Yes. All coaching and coaching inquiries are strictly confidential.
If you (or we) feel that we aren't the right fit for each other or you are no longer available, we can stop working together right away.
This is totally understandable and very normal! It's hard to let others see your most vulnerable side -- it's even harder to find a stranger you can trust and feel comfortable with. Please read my testimonials to get a feel of the kind of environment I create for my clients.
