Healing the Subconscious
We believe the foundation of love is built on the unremembered. Surfacing past unconscious trauma can lead to the free, healthy love you thought only existed in dreams. The anxious to secure transformation not only empowers us in our inner and outer worlds but fulfills an instinctual need for love and security.
FEATURED IN
To help people become Secure and
experience the love they deserve.
Our Mission
The 3 Pillars of
Self-awareness is the first step toward secure love. We share relatable insights to help you understand your patterns and relationships.
Secure Love
Lasting change begins within. When you build a compassionate relationship with yourself,
you create the safety needed to
heal and grow.
Transformation doesn’t happen overnight. It happens through small, consistent actions. With the right tools and support, Secure love becomes not just possible, but sustainable.
Awareness
Healing
Change
Sarah!
Hi, I'm
ABOUT OUR FOUNDER
I was twelve years old when, yet again, I was hiding in my room, listening to my parents screaming at each other. That night, I made a promise to myself through my tears:
'I will do whatever it takes not to repeat what my parents did!'
In hindsight, I was swinging back and forth between an Anxious Attachment Style (desperately wanting partners to meet my unmet needs) and an Avoidant Attachment Style (desiring love but also terrified of it).
But I struggled right from get go in my relationships as a teen. I pushed my partners away, gave them the silent treatment, or blew up at nothing to get a reaction. I would overreact to the slightest change in their demeanor, desperate for them to reach out and give me the assurance I craved. I thought to myself, "Why do I act this way?"
But I honored that commitment I made to never accept less than a healthy relationship, and dedicated the next 15 years to my inner healing. I studied psychology and Attachment Theory, did countless trainings, and became a life and relationships coach.
Over time, I practiced what I learned and I healed.
see credentials
Fun tip: I was born in South Korea and moved to New Zealand when I was 10. After a few years of working the 9-5 life, I left my job, bought a one-way ticket to Bali, and lived a nomadic lifestyle between 2018-2022. Now, my fiance and I live between Canada and New Zealand.
Today, I'm secure and happy in my relationship with my wonderful, loving fiance of seven years! I no longer need endless reassurance from him or feel scared he will leave me. I feel safe and content in our joyful and peaceful relationship and I pinch myself every day that I get to enjoy such fulfilling love and look forward to the future.
Sarah!
Hi, I'm
ABOUT OUR FOUNDER
I was twelve years old when, yet again, I was hiding in my room, listening to my parents screaming at each other. That night, I made a promise to myself through my tears: 'I will do whatever it takes not to repeat what my parents did!'
But I struggled right from get go in my relationships as a teen. I pushed my partners away, gave them the silent treatment, or blew up at nothing to get a reaction. I would overreact to the slightest change in their demeanor, desperate for them to reach out and give me the assurance I craved. I thought to myself, "Why do I act this way?"
In hindsight, I was swinging back and forth between an Anxious Attachment style (desperately wanting partners to meet my unmet needs) and an Avoidant Attachment style (desiring love but also terrified of it).
But I honored that commitment I made to never accept less than a healthy relationship, and dedicated the next 15 years to my inner healing. I studied psychology and Attachment Theory, did countless trainings, and became a life and relationships coach.
Over time, I practiced what I learned and I healed.
Today, I'm secure and happy in my relationship with my wonderful, loving fiance of seven years! I no longer need endless reassurance from him or feel scared he will leave me. I feel safe and content in our joyful and peaceful relationship and I pinch myself every day that I get to enjoy such fulfilling love and look forward to the future.
see credentials
Fun tip: I was born in South Korea and moved to New Zealand when I was 10. After a few years of working the 9-5 life, I left my job, bought a one-way ticket to Bali, and lived a nomadic lifestyle between 2018-2022. Now, my fiance and I live between Canada and New Zealand.
B.A in Psychology & Management - University of Auckland
B.A in Cognitive Psychology - University of California, San Diego
Tony Robbins’ ‘Unleash Your Power Within’ 3-Day Seminar
Self-Compassion course by Kirstin Neff
Healing Shame Workshop - Center For Healing Shame
iPEC Coaching (ICF-Accredited Coach Training Program)
Certified Professional Coach (CPC)
Energy Leadership™ Index Master Practitioner
COR.E Dynamics™
Certifications:
academic accomplishments
street accomplishments
psychology:
coaching:
“I loved several techniques she used (especially one she calls voices), and I felt I could fully trust her.
Discovering and accepting the darkest sides of myself wasn't the easiest thing but with Sarah I felt safe and comfortable.”
TATYANA.S.,
REGIONAL DIRECTOR ASSISTANT, DUBAI
“Throughout my sessions, she's helped me learn how to explore and acknowledge my feelings, rethink the narratives I tell myself, and reconnect with my inner child. I knew she'd be the right person just from her TikTok videos, but she truly was beyond my expectations.”
CHRISTIE.D.,
MARKETING, SYDNEY
“I loved her pre-coaching approach to learning what my goals, expectations, and learning styles are. Not only did I get exactly what I was looking for but I experienced compassion, validation, and patience far beyond what I expected.”
ERIN.W.,
REAL ESTATE AGENT
